By: E. A. Putman
I admit that I have dental trauma. I wore traditional braces as a child and then Invisalign as an adult (and I am still missing a tooth!). So, when my four-year-old ran up to me excitedly to show me that her bottom teeth were starting to spread, I panicked. I called my best friend, who has young children, and she calmed me down. “Is this normal?!” I asked, feeling anxious. Unsurprisingly, my panic didn’t help my child. She thought something was wrong with her teeth. She was still unconvinced when I explained that losing teeth is a natural part of life.
Losing a tooth is a natural part of life that all children experience—an inevitable milestone. I have previously blogged about how change makes me feel uncomfortable. My child’s upcoming tooth loss was no exception to this feeling.
Despite experiencing a creative block in my writing—about 11 months since my last article on family law—this change in my child’s life inspired me to explore the connection between losing a tooth and the end of a marriage. This process led me to uncover the valuable lessons that can be learned from both experiences.
As a married family law attorney, I understand how challenging and overwhelming the divorce process can be. If I were in your position, I would hope for someone to handle my case with the utmost care. I would want compassion, too. So, I offer valuable advice to those going through a divorce or considering filing for one.
Stay Calm. My panic about the inevitable did not help my daughter. Going through a divorce can be incredibly overwhelming, and it’s natural to feel anxious. To help cope with panic and anxiety during a divorce, find the right lawyer. Make sure the lawyer fits your situation. The best choice isn’t always the cheapest attorney or the most well-known one. It’s essential to understand your specific needs and choose suitably.
Handle with care. When her tooth eventually falls out, preserving her gum health is essential. The pediatric society recommends using a saltwater rinse to alleviate discomfort. Divorce causes discomfort. I’m not suggesting a trip to the tropical jungles of Puerto Vallarta for a retreat (PLUG). Still, recovering after a divorce is vital to your mental and physical health.
Lastly, trust in the natural process of healing. She won’t get her adult teeth overnight. It will take time. Whether your marriage lasted ten months or ten years, healing takes time. Recognizing that loss is part of growth and can take some time can be comforting. I often share that the best stories come from former remarried clients. You will smile, laugh, and love again.
The Putman Firm, PLLC, is a family law litigation firm with over 10 years of experience in the Houston community. We handle various family matters, including divorce, child support, and child custody. We also manage criminal matters that intersect family law. Examples are family violence assault cases, protective orders (criminal and civil), and allegations of child abuse.
If you need legal help with a family law case, contact The Putman Firm, PLLC, at (281) 501-9033. You can also schedule a consultation by visiting Your Family Law Attorney.
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